Ok see if you follow me on this. The other day someone said to me that if they'd known that we were having Timmy evaluated they wouldn't have commented on his behavior awhile back because they "know how sensitive some people can be."
Now the original comment about his aggression issue was made a while ago and I was neither defensive or sensitive about it. His behavior is what it is, while a Dx may give us explanation it doesn't excuse unacceptable behavior.
But now I think I'm being overly sensitive about the fact that someone commented about being sensitive...because I don't think I was being overly sensitive! Anyone able to follow me on this? No, can't say I blame you! Sometimes I can totally see where Timmy gets some of his traits! :)
This blog has been created to record the journey of finding answers to the issues we have experienced with our son Timmy, 5 1/2 years old at the creation of this blog.
Bill of Rights for Misunderstood Kids
HELP ME TO FOCUS...Please teach me through my sense of touch. I need "hands-on" and body movement.
I NEED TO KNOW WHAT COMES NEXT...Please give me a structured environment where there is a dependable routine. Give me an advance warning if there will be changes.
WAIT FOR ME, I'M STILL THINKING...Please allow me to go at my own pace. If I'm rushed, I get confused and upset.
I'M STUCK, I CAN'T DO IT...!Please offer me options for problem solving. If the road is blocked, I need to know the detours.
IS IT RIGHT? I NEED TO KNOW NOW...Please give me rich and immediate feedback on how I'm doing.
I DIDN'T KNOW I WASN'T IN MY SEAT...!Please remind me to stop, think, and act.
AM I ALMOST DONE...?Please give me short work periods with short-term goals.
WHAT...?Please don't say "I already told you that." Tell me again, in different words. Give me a signal. Draw me a symbol.
I KNOW IT'S ALL WRONG, ISN'T IT...?Please give me praise for partial success. Reward me for self-improvement, not just for perfection.
BUT WHY DO I ALWAYS GET YELLED AT...?Please catch me doing something right and praise me for the specific positive behavior. Remind me--and yourself--about my good points when I'm having a bad day.
I NEED TO KNOW WHAT COMES NEXT...Please give me a structured environment where there is a dependable routine. Give me an advance warning if there will be changes.
WAIT FOR ME, I'M STILL THINKING...Please allow me to go at my own pace. If I'm rushed, I get confused and upset.
I'M STUCK, I CAN'T DO IT...!Please offer me options for problem solving. If the road is blocked, I need to know the detours.
IS IT RIGHT? I NEED TO KNOW NOW...Please give me rich and immediate feedback on how I'm doing.
I DIDN'T KNOW I WASN'T IN MY SEAT...!Please remind me to stop, think, and act.
AM I ALMOST DONE...?Please give me short work periods with short-term goals.
WHAT...?Please don't say "I already told you that." Tell me again, in different words. Give me a signal. Draw me a symbol.
I KNOW IT'S ALL WRONG, ISN'T IT...?Please give me praise for partial success. Reward me for self-improvement, not just for perfection.
BUT WHY DO I ALWAYS GET YELLED AT...?Please catch me doing something right and praise me for the specific positive behavior. Remind me--and yourself--about my good points when I'm having a bad day.
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